Tags: family, lemonade stand, love, March of Dimes, perspective, Pokemon Go, thoughts, ways to honor the memory of your child
Yesterday turned into an unexpected mix of spending time with all 4 of my children.
The day started out with Evan and I dropping off the twins at Sunday school and then going over to the cemetery to visit Jake and Sawyer.
The twins (and I) play Pokémon Go. The cemetery happens to have a crazy amount of Pokémon stops – which is where the balls to catch Pokémon are collected. Below is a picture of the cemetery. The blue squares are all Pokémon stops.
The odd thing to me is that apparently some people come to the cemetery just to play Pokémon. What might be even more odd is that I like the fact that where Jake and Sawyer are buried is right near a particular Pokémon stop (see below). I like to think in some cosmic way that Jake and Sawyer are playing the same game that the twins and I are playing.
In addition to playing Pokémon Go, the twins decided that yesterday would be a great day for a Lemonade Stand to remember their brothers. They set one up at the end of our driveway and raised money and awareness for the March of Dimes.
Would you like to join us in our efforts? You can just click on this link and then click the “Walk with Me” button to join our Walk Team. If that is not in the cards (which we know for most of you it is not), consider whether you can support us in our fundraising efforts. Every dollar counts, and every dollar is matched by the hospital where our kids were born, so $1 donated = $2 to the March of Dimes. Click on this link and click the “Donate Now” button. Thanks for your support and any donation you can make!
Seven years ago tonight, your dad and I kissed you goodnight. If I knew it would be the last time I held you, I would have never let you go. Missing you so much sweet Sawyer today and always (some days are just harder than others). I will look for you in my dreams.
No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye. You were gone before we knew it, and only G-d knows why. Author Unknown
Tags: #WorldPrematurityDay, Georgia Gives Day, gratitude, happy birthday, hope, life, March of Dimes, not a dark day
Today is World Prematurity Day so I am wearing purple in memory and in honor of your oldest brother Jake and all the other babies born into this world too soon. Today is Georgia Gives Back day so I just drove food to a shelter and will be making donations in honor of you and your siblings.
Today is also the day that we welcomed you to the world! Today I want to celebrate wonderful little you. Today I am going to read all the congratulations emails we received after you were born because last night I discovered your Dad kept them all (and I have never seen them). Today I will give presents to your brother and sister for your birthday because there do not seem to be any rules on how to celebrate your 7th birthday without you – so, I am trying to make up my own. Today I will try to smile, not to cry (but please forgive me if I do).
Today you gave me the gift of being your mama and for that I am forever grateful to you my sweet Sawyer.
Tags: Halloween, life, love, twins
Happy Halloween from Mudkip (a type of Pokémon) and the Friendly Polka Dotted Monster!
“One joy shatters a hundred griefs.”
– – Chinese Proverb
Tags: Atlanta Walk to Remember, grief, hope, Jake, life, loss of a child, Sawyer, Wave of Light - October 15th
We lit our candles on October 15.
This year and last year I made the candles we lit. I made candles that were given out at the Atlanta Walk to Remember. There is not much I can do to lessen the pain that a bereaved parent carries throughout their lifetime. I am hoping that the candle makes their path a little brighter (even if it is only for a little while).
Tags: baby loss, death of a baby, hope, Wave of Light - October 15th
Tomorrow is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. As part of the day, everyone is invited to light a candle at 7 pm in all time zones, all over the world. The idea is that if everyone lights a candle at 7 pm and keeps it burning for at least 1 hour, there will be a continuous wave of light.
Today and every day I miss Jake and Sawyer but tomorrow at 7 pm we will light candles. This year I will once again hope that the light from all the candles will make the darkness of the unknown a little brighter.
Tags: Atlanta Walk to Remember, ways to honor the memory of your child
Walk in Fulton County honors children lost.
Click on the picture above to see the local news coverage of the Atlanta Walk to Remember. Jake’s name is read in the first sentence of the story.
The mention of my child’s name may bring tears to my eyes, but it never fails to bring music to my ears. If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul. — Author Unknown
Tags: Atlanta Walk to Remember, baby loss, dark days, death of a baby, hope, life, loss of a child, ways to honor the memory of your child
Losing a child is one of the most devastating and lonely events which can happen to a human being. I wish that none of us lived in a world without our child/children. However, the reality is that parents from every religion, class and country have outlived their children.
Every year since Jake (and then Sawyer) died we have walked in the Atlanta Walk to Remember. It is an event to connect parents and families together to express grief and remember our babies, and to raise awareness. It is not a fundraiser.
It is just a time to remember our lost children together.
The 12th Annual Atlanta Walk to Remember is the first Sunday of October. For more information about the walk in Atlanta click here. For information about walks and events in other locations click here.
Tags: Buddy, dark days, death, death of a pet, grief, life, loss of a child, thoughts
August, as I have written about in the past, is filled with happy as well as hard days. This year August started out with our dog, Buddy, dying. I wrote about how I was in denial about his death and wondered how long I could stay there.
On and off throughout the month I was haunted by a dream where I could not find Jake. I would try to go back to sleep in hopes that I could go back to the dream and find him. One weekend I slept as much as possible determined to search for and find Jake in my dreams. It did not work. If I had the dream about Jake I always awoke without finding him.
Last night I finally found Jake in my dreams – he was with Buddy. So, to answer my own question about “how long can I stay in denial?” it seems like the answer is about a month. I sure do miss them both.
“When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.” – author unknown
Happy Birthday sweet baby Jake – we miss you and love you today and always.