A resolution (not the New Years kind)
January 2, 2014 at 9:14 pm | Posted in Cemetery, Grief | 3 CommentsTags: baby loss, cemetery, child loss, death of a baby, gratitude, Jake, new not so normal, perspective, Sawyer, thoughts
I found out that my friend at the cemetery might have made the call to get Jake and Sawyer’s markers fixed. I saw him the other day and asked him if he had anything to do with the new markers. He would not say one way or the other, but I said thank you and I gave him a big hug just in case.
He explained to me that the granite that the markers rest on and the markers themselves are made at the same time. When Sawyer died we buried him next to Jake, but in the same full-sized plot. There were no issues with the headstone following Sawyer’s funeral because we did not have Sawyer’s marker added until 2 years later. When we did add Sawyer’s marker the granite had to be replaced to allow for the 2 markers instead of just Jake’s.
The bolts that held the markers to the granite were not an exact fit which apparently is why the markers moved and shifted. The bolts have all been replaced now. However, there is a chance that the markers will shift again because the granite and the markers were still made at different times. If the markers move again, the next fix would be to replace the entire granite and both of the markers (then the granite and both markers will be made at the same time – and should fit together without being able to shift).
Even with all of these logical solutions, I still like the idea that Jake and Sawyer are playing practical jokes on us.
Wishing you all a Happy 2014!
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A Mourning Mom 
It is a sweet concept–even though logic dictates! Happy 2014 to you!
Comment by eden— January 2, 2014 #
I believe that Jake and Sawyer are in our presence, in moving grave markers or whenever else there is wonder around us, and especially in loving gestures by people we barely know.
Comment by Amy Johnson— January 3, 2014 #
What an incredibly thoughtful thing to do. Our son’s headstone has shifted so that it’s lower on one side than the other. Dirt and debris catches in the lower corner. The stone needs to be lifted and sand placed underneath to level it again. But, it’s not something we can do ourselves as the stone is very, very heavy. We no longer live close by, so I don’t see it all the time. We are planning on going back to Seattle this summer, so perhaps I will try to get it fixed then.
Comment by Rebecca Carney - One Woman's Perspective— January 3, 2014 #