So sad

March 14, 2011 at 10:36 pm | Posted in Death, Grief, mother, mourning | 17 Comments
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I have tried to write this post several times in the last week.  I cannot seem to find the words but I am going to try.

Evan’s mother lost her battle with cancer.  I was very lucky to have her as a mother-in-law. 

She was an amazing artist

She was an amazing business woman

She was an amazing athlete.  In one 9 month period, right after chemo for the cancer which had returned to her bones, she had 3 holes in one. 

And most importantly, she was an amazing mother, grandmother, wife, sister and friend.  I am so sad that she died.

A few weeks ago Evan and I were talking.  He told me that in a perfect world his mom would be healthy, happy and teaching art to all 4 of our children.  Here she is playing with the twins last summer:

I like to think that Evan’s mom is now with Jake and Sawyer.  Maybe, just maybe she is teaching art to them as I write.


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  1. I’m so saddened to hear of the loss of your mother-in-law. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. I believe you are right, she is definitely with Jake & Sawyer as we write, and they are all sending you love and warm thoughts to fill your heart, as am I.
    All my Love,

  2. I am so sorry to hear of Evan’s mom’s passing. May you all find peace in your memories of her. May she live on in the stories you tell Fletcher and Alyssa. I also think she is with Jake & Sawyer, teaching them art, and telling them all about Fletcher and Alyssa. My love to you all. – Amy

  3. I am so sorry to hear about Evan’s mom. Your entire family is in my thoughts! Sending hugs. Love, Aimee

  4. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I am a new reader, and I just cannot express to you hoe heartbroken I am for you. You are in my prayers. You seem like such an amazing woman and mother, I’m sure your MIL is so happy her son chose you!


  5. oh lanie – i like that. there is some comfort in picturing the three of them together, yes? like she is with the twins in these precious pictures. i am so, so sorry for all of your losses. you possess phenomenal strength and grace.

  6. Our thoughts are with you. And take good care of Evan – losing his Mom must be very difficult for him. Hugs to everyone!

  7. Lanie,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I do believe that our loved ones are all joined together in heaven. I have to believe that. So never say goodbye, say “until we meet again”
    Blessings as you mourn this amazing woman,


  8. I am so sorry for your loss. She really was a special woman, and I’m glad I got to know her, even a little bit. I too like to think of her with the boys.

  9. I woke up this morning thinking of you and said a prayer for you all. I am so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for you as you grieve a very special woman. Sending hugs to you!

  10. The loss you and Evan have had to deal with is astounding. Sending my prayers and love, as always. xo xo

  11. Thanks for this, Lanie. It’s lovely.

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