Storms & Seasons Greetings
December 12, 2012 at 12:12 pm | Posted in Grief, life lessons, normal?, silver lining | 10 CommentsTags: baby loss, child loss, dark days, death of a baby, holidays, new not so normal, parenthood, perspective
The dark days of December are always accompanied by holiday parties and cheer. The people of planet earth should be celebrating and happy because as it has already been established not everyone lives on planet my baby died. Last weekend I was visiting planet earth when Evan and I attended his work holiday party. For the most part we fit right in. Three different people asked “how many children do you have?” My response to 2 of them was “we have twins at home.”
I was speaking to a woman who I knew had lost a daughter. I did not know how or if I would bring it up but then she asked the question. I told her about all 4 of our children. I told her about Jake and Sawyer. She told me about her daughter who had died in 1999.
She shared with me that the month of her daughter’s death is still hard for her. I am truly sad that it is difficult but her honesty helped me. The 3 years since Sawyer died seem so long ago in some respects but in others it really does not. There is no plan to get over or through grief. It is a journey. I know exactly when the storms began but I am not sure if they will ever end.
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A Mourning Mom 
I have no doubt that your honesty helped her. I suppose that is part of the journey. I wish I could be there to help you along your way, but even though I am not…please know that I am thinking of you and sending you love and peace.
Comment by Amy Johnson— December 12, 2012 #
Always thinking about your journey and your boys. xo
Comment by Kelcey— December 12, 2012 #
Re-entering planet my baby died for another stay. I think twins at home is a fantastic answer, I’m going to use that. I never know what to say.
Comment by Amelia— December 13, 2012 #
That question again… http://hopeforpassion.wordpress.com/2012/11/09/that-question/
Did you see the date and time of your post! Amazingly timed!
Comment by Nathalie Himmelrich— December 13, 2012 #
Here’s wishing you peace whether you’re on the planet my baby died or on planet earth.
Comment by Cate— December 13, 2012 #
Excellent response and a wonderful post. Loved our time together on Friday. Love you and your family,
Comment by patty— December 13, 2012 #
Hey Lanie, Thinking of you always, and wishing that you never even had to know about planet my baby died.
Comment by Daphne— December 13, 2012 #
Your response seemed to be just perfect. And I’m sure she was glad to partake in an honest conversation…Love to all.
Comment by Eden— December 13, 2012 #
The parents of Jessica Rekos, a 6-year-old girl who died during the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., said they are committed to keeping their daughter’s memory alive despite their pain.
Comment by Kelly Wells— February 1, 2013 #
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