Storms & Seasons Greetings

December 12, 2012 at 12:12 pm | Posted in Grief, life lessons, normal?, silver lining | 10 Comments
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The dark days of December are always accompanied by holiday parties and cheer.  The people of planet earth should be celebrating and happy because as it has already been established not everyone lives on planet my baby died. Last weekend I was visiting planet earth when Evan and I attended his work holiday party.  For the most part we fit right in.  Three different people asked “how many children do you have?”  My response to 2 of them was “we have twins at home.”

I was speaking to a woman who I knew had lost a daughter.  I did not know how or if I would bring it up but then she asked the question.  I told her about all 4 of our children.  I told her about Jake and Sawyer.  She told me about her daughter who had died in 1999.

She shared with me that the month of her daughter’s death is still hard for her.  I am truly sad that it is difficult but her honesty helped me.  The 3 years since Sawyer died seem so long ago in some respects but in others it really does not.  There is no plan to get over or through grief.  It is a journey.  I know exactly when the storms began but I am not sure if they will ever end.


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  1. I have no doubt that your honesty helped her. I suppose that is part of the journey. I wish I could be there to help you along your way, but even though I am not…please know that I am thinking of you and sending you love and peace.

  2. Always thinking about your journey and your boys. xo

  3. Re-entering planet my baby died for another stay. I think twins at home is a fantastic answer, I’m going to use that. I never know what to say.

  4. That question again…
    Did you see the date and time of your post! Amazingly timed!

  5. Here’s wishing you peace whether you’re on the planet my baby died or on planet earth.

  6. Excellent response and a wonderful post. Loved our time together on Friday. Love you and your family,

  7. Hey Lanie, Thinking of you always, and wishing that you never even had to know about planet my baby died.

  8. Your response seemed to be just perfect. And I’m sure she was glad to partake in an honest conversation…Love to all.

  9. The parents of Jessica Rekos, a 6-year-old girl who died during the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., said they are committed to keeping their daughter’s memory alive despite their pain.

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