Advice for moms & dads
August 13, 2010 at 2:00 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 4 CommentsTags: child loss, death, grief
I was not planning to write a post today but I seem to be compelled to write anyway. As I have learned time and time again plans can be made but they frequently change. My husband and I went to a memorial service this morning. It was for an 8 month old baby girl of a friend and co-worker.
There are so many things that moms give each other advice about: diapers, bottle feeding, breast feeding, potty training, this list could go on and on but you get the point. There is no advice to give to a mother or father who have just lost their child.
Having buried 2 children, I felt like I should be able to say some words of wisdom. Although the circumstances were different the result was the same – our children are no longer with us. Maybe writing this blog will help me figure out something magic to say to other bereaved parents or maybe not. I am just going to keep writing and see what happens.
As I stood in line to pay my respects to the parents I realized I have nothing helpful to say. There are no steps to follow, there are no other options to try or videos to watch. It is just there – enormous amounts of sorrow and grief. Lost hopes and dreams for your child and your family.
So, when it was my turn to speak to the parents I just gave them a hug.
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A Mourning Mom 
I couldn’t agree more!
Comment by Aimee Alexander— August 13, 2010 #
Sometimes that is the most strength you can give someone. You are a good friend.
Comment by Daphne— August 16, 2010 #
I did not think I could admire you any more than I already do. You are an amazing woman. Thanks for writing so honestly.
Comment by Kristen— August 27, 2010 #
Not much you can say, you having been there was enough for them to know that you knew exactly how they were feeling.
Comment by Greg B— November 23, 2012 #