i hope someone finds a cure for cancer
March 2, 2015 at 9:51 pm | Posted in Death, Grief, life after loss, Love | 9 CommentsTags: cancer, dark days, death, family, life after loss, new not so normal, Sad, thoughts
Not too long after Sawyer died, the spouses of 2 of my cousins were diagnosed with cancer. One lost her battle 2 years ago and the other lost her battle this past weekend. Having lived through Jake and Sawyer’s deaths, you would think handling death would somehow be easier (or at least not so damn hard). I feel like I should have some wise words – or some magic way to protect others from living without their loved ones. I am just not sure such magic exists. Rationally, I know that death is part of life and that we will all die at some point but dealing with it is not easy. Maybe it is not supposed to be easy. If it were easy than it would mean we did not care for or love the person.
The cousin’s wife who died recently was only in her forties and they have young children. It is not fair that their children have to grow up without their mother. I know, no one ever promised that life would be fair – but I wish it could be (even if only for a little while).
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A Mourning Mom 
Lanie, I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I wish I had words that could comfort. I will say a few prayers for your cousin and family.
Comment by Kristen— March 2, 2015 #
Dear Lanie – I share your sense of unfairness at the loss of a young mother. You are, of course, right that we will all die, but timing makes a very big difference. Your babies died too young and so did our cousin. Let the rest of us celebrate life and cherish our loved ones! You are among my loved ones. Cornelia
Comment by Cornelia Levine— March 2, 2015 #
I had been thinking of you a bunch today. I am so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. I wish I too had magic words. Know how much you are loved my dear, give my best to Evan and the kiddos.
Comment by Amy— March 2, 2015 #
My thoughts are with you and your family as unfair life makes you mourn yet another loved one. It’s Not Fair!
Comment by Daphne— March 3, 2015 #
Thanks for posting Lanie. Yes so very tragic, once again. Wish I lived closer to Nate Jesse and Simone.
Comment by Debbie— March 20, 2015 #
thank you. it often seems like there’s nothing to say, and yet even acknowledging that can be powerful. I appreciate every thought and prayer from you. Wish we could all make it easier for each other–and I guess we do.
Comment by David Van Taylor— March 20, 2015 #
thank you Lanie. I don’t usually reply here, but I want you to know that I appreciate the acknowledgment of what we’re all going through. –Lauren
Comment by lauren— March 20, 2015 #
Dear Lanie, Thank you for this post. My heart goes out to you! I, too, have unfortunately, experienced the loss of someone from cancer. My Mom died 2 years ago from Lung Cancer at 59. You have my deepest sympathies. Thank you for this blog, I have visited many times. I have recently started my own blog about mourning loss because I have found that writing helps me. It has been 2 years since my Mom passed and there are days when I feel as pained as I did right afterwards. Mourning is so individual and should be treated with deep understanding and patience. I go back and forth from being alright one day, to on the floor the next and I think that is all NORMAL.
Thank you so much for this. Please feel free to follow my blog at http://themourningmom.blogspot.com/
Take care.
Comment by Rebecca— April 3, 2015 #
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