Happily Ever After & Hope (part 2)

July 16, 2011 at 7:24 pm | Posted in Grief, mourning, silver lining, twins | 6 Comments
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It was so nice to write such a happy post last week.  Life has ups and downs and I know that without the bad times it is hard to appreciate the good times.  I recently read about the concept of “nexting” – always thinking about is going to happen next.   So I am trying very hard to appreciate the good moments right now:

After Sawyer died someone said to me that Evan and I will never live happily ever after.  It was not said with with cruel intentions.  It was an honest statement that that after burying a child (or children) life is bittersweet.

We may not have lived happily ever after even if Jake and Sawyer had lived.  And there is no alternate universe in which I can find out.  Life, marriage and kids are hard at times even if you are not a bereaved parent.  I am hoping that good times continue and when they do not maybe the bad times will not be quite as bad.  In the meantime, I will go watch the twins dance the robot:

And, I am going to confess to “nexting” because the twins and I are going to the beach soon.  They are so excited to go see their Aunt, Uncle and cousin!


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  1. I am so happy for your happy moments.

  2. Love the thoughts.

  3. This blog makes me happy, too. Keep on “nexting,” Lanie, and think of all the good that the future holds for you and your wonderful family.

  4. I share your hopes Lanie. May there be more good times then bad. My dad always used to say “There’s fun ahead…” and there is….lots of it. My love to you, Amy

  5. Have a wonderful time at the beach. I always find the ocean soothing. I’m going to give “counting my blessings” a workout. It’s time for me to seek happiness in whatever form there is. Today I’ll start by spending the day with my grandlittles.

  6. Nexting — great idea. Being thankful for the good things I have, no matter how small, even during the hard times has pulled me through.

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