A Mourning Mom

Advice for moms & dads

I was not planning to write a post today but I seem to be compelled to write anyway.   As I have learned time and time again plans can be made but they frequently change.  My husband and I went to a memorial service this morning.  It was for an 8 month old baby girl of a friend and co-worker. 

There are so many things that moms give each other advice about: diapers, bottle feeding, breast feeding, potty training, this list could go on and on but you get the point.  There is no advice to give to a mother or father who have just lost their child. 

Having buried 2 children, I felt like I should be able to say some words of wisdom.  Although the circumstances were different the result was the same – our children are no longer with us.  Maybe writing this blog will help me figure out something magic to say to other bereaved parents or maybe not.  I am just going to keep writing and see what happens.

As I stood in line to pay my respects to the parents I realized I have nothing helpful to say.  There are no steps to follow, there are no other options to try or videos to watch.  It is just there – enormous amounts of sorrow and grief.  Lost hopes and dreams for your child and your family.  

So, when it was my turn to speak to the parents I just gave them a hug.