August 27th
August 27, 2010 at 9:14 am | Posted in NICU | 12 CommentsTags: child loss, death, grief
When we got to the NICU I knew that there was not going to be a miracle for Jake. The ventilator and the medications were no longer helping. Jake had made the decision for us. We did not have to be the ones to decide to take him off the ventilator. This was just one of the many gifts Jake gave to us.
Bridget, the NICU nurse, said that I could hold him. I had never held him before. I knew this would be my first and last day to hold Jake.
Holding Jake
Evan was also able to hold him.
Evan Holding Jake
At 6:14 am Jake’s heroic struggle ended. Jake gave it everything he had, and we were and still are so proud of him. Sometimes the challenges you face in life are simply too much.
The NICU nurses helped us to give him a bath and to dress him. He had never been outside and they suggested we spend some time with him on the terrace outside the NICU.
Family picture
We were very lucky to have been chosen by Jake to be his parents.
I miss Jake today and every day. Some days are just tougher.
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A Mourning Mom 
Crying here. I’m so sorry Lanie. I cannot even imagine that you have gone through this not only once but twice.
Comment by jen— August 27, 2010 #
Dearest Lanie and Evan, our love for you and all your children grows every day. We cannot put into words the depth and breadth of our love, compassion, and appreciation for all of you. We are grateful that we were chosen to be your parents and Jake’s Nanny and Pop.
Love always and Forever
Comment by Nanny (Lanie's mom)— August 27, 2010 #
Lanie, These posts are so beautiful and I have read every one over and over. Thank you for sharing your story so candidly. I know that in addition to helping yourself you are undoubtedly helping so many others. Love to you, Joanna
Comment by Joanna— August 27, 2010 #
Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts and pictures.
Comment by Daphne— August 27, 2010 #
I am crying for you. For us. Please know that I am holding you and your husband in my heart.
Comment by The Good Cook— August 27, 2010 #
Jake is in our hearts, and so are all of you. Thanks for letting us into yours.
Comment by eden— August 27, 2010 #
Thank you for helping us get to know jake just a little bit more. Beautiful post. xo
Comment by kelcey— August 28, 2010 #
I am so sorry for your losses of Jake and Sawyer. Thank you for your heartfelt writing. The pictures of you are so heartbreakingly beautiful.
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As always, you say so much with just a few special words. We are in awe of your ability to be so strong as a mother and wife and a key part of a family who has dealt with so much too soon.
Comment by Eden Pontz— August 30, 2018 #